Breaking the Habit of Being Myself

I’m Breaking the Habit of Being Myself

So I am reading this book called “Breaking the Habit of Being Yourself”. Funny title, huh? Actually the book is pretty scientific in a sort of layperson way. It talks about the “quantum field” which is pure energy. And this energy field, where you and I and everything else in the universe live, is where all potentiality exists.

Well, a certain phrase stuck with me in the last day or two: Cause & effect versus causing an effect. Hmmm….

OK, so we all heard of karma. You do something and that very act causes something else to happen. That’s cause & effect. But what if we can cause a desired effect simply by what we think and feel? How would that change your life? Your business?

My partner and I have been playing with this concept in our personal and professional lives lately. When an undesirable thought arises (oh my lord, how many do we have in a given day!) in our collective or individual minds, we choose to NOT feed it. In other words, we starve it to death by not giving it any significant impact in our lives. But instead, just notice it. And then let it go. According to quantum physics, what we give attention to — grows.

Now the flip side of this coin is nurturing the ideas you WANT to grow. And the way you do this is coloring it with “thought and feeling”. Yes, that combo is essential. In other words, if you want to change some aspect of yourself or business, you have to think and feel and act in new ways. BTW: Your “self” affects your business, if you haven’t noticed.

Because I Love Them

Here is one way that this has played itself out in my life. A marketing exec friend of mine said to me after I launched my Women Of Green Facebook page, “How did you get so many fans so fast?” Now for the record, this guy was the CEO of a web portal that promoted over 5,000 green brands. He knew his stuff. My response to his inquiry even surprised me. I said, “Because I love them!”

That response was explicitly a combination of thought, feeling and action. The initial thought: I am starting (notice I didn’t say “want to”) a Facebook page for my new endeavor and I am providing super inspiring stories, information and real life connections to the women and men that are drawn to turning up the volume of the feminine voice on the planet. This thought led me to creating a website and finding the right people to help with this endeavor. There’s that quantum field at work again. But notice, I was still just operating on the mental plane (thought and action). What was missing was…

The Juice

How you do what you do matters. Because Women Of Green is such a passion of mine, the energy behind it is love. That’s the juice, the “feeling” part in the quantum equation. In retrospect, what I learned was that our posts, the energy we are putting out there, is infused with that aliveness, a feeling of truly wanting to connect and serve my tribe. So with combination of all three, Women Of Green took off. When you put “thought”, “action” and “feeling” in the same room, magic happens.

Now It’s Your Turn

So, how are you doing that? What are you trying to manifest? Does it need more thought? Or feeling? Or action? How can you combine the three to make the delectable soup you are desiring to create? I would love to know!

Carolyn Parrs, Women Of Green FounderCarolyn Parrs is the CEO and founder of Mind Over Markets, a dedicated green and socially-focused marketing communications and design company in Santa Fe, New Mexico. For over a decade, she has helped businesses and organizations succeed.

Carolyn is a featured author on Green Marketing in Thomson Reuters book series for C-level executives called Inside the Minds: Greening your Business. She is the creator of Women Of Green, a multi-media blog and Facebook community that turns up the volume of the feminine voice in green.

Carolyn is a founding board member and past President of the Santa Fe Green Chamber of Commerce, part of the largest statewide business organization in New Mexico with over 1100 members. She is also a certified Marketing and Business Coach and works one-on-one with entrepreneurs and executives internationally. She has worked at top New York City advertising agencies, such as Benton & Bowles and Wunderman Worldwide, serving clients such as General Foods, Proctor & Gamble, AT&T, IBM, Richardson-Vicks, Manufacturers Hanover Trust, Time/Life Books and more.

As a serial entrepreneur, Carolyn founded an upscale pet supplies company called POOCHI and in under 4 years it was acquired by a multi-billion dollar corporation. She and her products have appeared on television shows such as Good Morning America, ABC News, CBS News and on radio and cable shows such as HBO, CNN and Lifetime Channel. Print coverage includes The New York Times, L.A. Times, Wall Street Journal, Chicago Tribune, People Magazine and Cosmopolitan.

Carolyn is the mother of two and lives in Santa Fe, New Mexico with her daughter and pups, Heart and Soul.

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